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Family and kinship of the twelve apostles

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GRM 8.2

The Gospel as revealed to me

Quotation

«Come into this friendly house for a little while. Then we shall go together. Zacharias is here too.»

They all enter a low dark room where the only light is a big fire. The landlady, obviously a friend of Elizabeth, but unknown to Anne, kindly withdraws and leaves them alone.

Detail

Elisabeth invites Anne to a friend's house. The owner remains a stranger.

Annotation

The "friendly house" near the Temple is probably that of Zebedee's parents. Zebedee's family supplied the Temple priests with fish from the lake.

The mistress of the house may therefore be Zebedee's mother, but there's no proof of this.

GRM 14.4

The Gospel as revealed to me

Quotation

14.4 They have arrived. The waggon stops.

Two women and two men, about forty and fifty years of age respectively, are at the entrance and many children and young boys are with them. «May God give You peace, Mary» says the elder man and one of the women approaches Mary embracing and kissing Her.

«He is my brother Alphaeus and she is Mary, his wife, and these are their children. They have come to greet You and to tell You that their house is Yours if You wish so» says Joseph.

«Yes, come Mary, if it is painful for You to live by Yourself. The country is beautiful in springtime and our house is in the middle of fields full of flowers. And You will be the loveliest flower there» says Mary of Alphaeus.

«Thank you, Mary. I would come so willingly. But I am so anxious to see and recognise My own home. I left it when I was a little girl, and I have forgotten what it is like… Now I have found it again… and I feel I have found also My lost mother, My beloved father, and that I can hear the echo of their words… and I smell the perfume of their last breath. I feel I am no longer an orphan, because once again I have around Me the embrace of these walls… Please understand Me, Mary.» Mary’s voice trembles and Her eyes begin to shine with tears.

Mary of Alphaeus replies to Her: «As You wish, my dear. I want You to feel that I am Your sister and friend, and also a mother to You, since I am so much older than You are.»

Detail

Joseph, Simon, Jude and James are present, but are not described by Maria.

GRM 14.6

The Gospel as revealed to me

Quotation

«What do you mean?» asks Alphaeus. «Are you not getting married this summer?»

«No. Mary wants to weave Her woollen clothes, the only things missing from Her trousseau. And I agree with Her. Mary is so young that it does not matter if we wait for a year or more. In the meantime She will get used to the house…»

«Well! You have always been somewhat different from other people and you still are. I do not know who would not be in a hurry to get married to a beautiful flower like Mary, and you are delaying things by months!…»

«A joy awaited for a long time is a joy to be taken delight in more intensely» replies Joseph with a gentle smile.

His brother shrugs his shoulders and asks: «Well, then, when are you thinking of getting married?»

«When Mary is sixteen. After the feast of the Tabernacles. The winter evenings will be sweet for the newly weds!…» and he smiles again looking at Mary. A smile of a gentle secret understanding. A smile of a brotherly chastity giving comfort.

Detail

Mary returns to Nazareth after years of living in the Temple. She is betrothed to Joseph, and Alphée, his brother, learns that they won't be having the wedding right away.

GRM 25.3

The Gospel as revealed to me

Quotation

Mary wants to go to the stable to see whether Joseph has arrived. He has not. Mary is disappointed and worried.

Elizabeth is anxious about Her. «We can stay until midday, then we must go, to be home before night. He is too young to be out at night.»

And Mary, calm and sad: «I will stay in one of the yards of the Temple. I will go to My teachers… I do not know. I will do something.»

Zacharias makes a proposal which is immediately accepted as a good solution: «Let us go to Zebedee’s relatives. Joseph will certainly look for You there. If he should not come there, it will be quite easy for You to find someone who will accompany You to Galilee, because the fishermen from Gennesaret are continuously going to and coming from that house.»

They take the little donkey and go to Zebedee’s relatives, who are the very same people with whom Joseph and Mary stayed four months before.

GRM 38

The Gospel as revealed to me

Detail

Maria sees the house in Nazareth. Jesus, James and Jude are playing together in the garden: they are still children. Mary is not far away. They decide to perform a passage from the Bible. They suggest playing the scene of the golden calf in Exodus, but one of the cousins doesn't want to play Miriam, who has bowed down to the idol. So Jesus suggests playing the part where Joshua is elected as Moses' successor. This idea suits everyone. After asking Mary about a point in Exodus, they go off to play, and Jesus plays Moses to perfection. His cousins are amazed that he recites the texts so well.

Mary of Alphaeus arrives with Alphaeus. They return from Cana and bring with them three lambs. One is for Jesus, and is all white; the others are rather black. It was Joseph's idea to offer these to his Son, and Alphée wanted to do the same with his children.

Alphée suggested that Jesus should soon go to school, but Mary categorically refused: she would teach her Child. Joseph supports her decision, and Alphée thinks his brother is too quick to bow to his wife's decision. Joseph responds wisely, and Mary of Alphée asks that the Virgin teach her children as well. She says she doesn't mind, and convinces Alphée to let them come to her house for a few hours. The children promise to love her and pay attention to her lessons.

GRM 38.6

The Gospel as revealed to me

Quotation

There is a knock at the door. Joseph walks quickly across the orchard and the room and opens it.

«Peace to you, Alphaeus and Mary!»

«And peace and blessings to you.»

It is Joseph’s brother with his wife. A rustic cart, drawn by a strong donkey, is outside in the street.

«Did you have a good trip?»

«Very good. And the children?»

«They are in the garden with Mary.»

But the children have already come to greet their mother. Also Mary comes, holding Jesus by the hand. The two sisters-in-law kiss each other.

«Have they been good?»

«Very good, and very dear. Are the relatives all well?»

«Yes they all are. They send You their regards, and they have sent You many presents from Cana. Grapes, apples, cheese, eggs, honey. And… Joseph? I have found just what you wanted for Jesus. It is on the cart, in the round basket.» Alphaeus’ wife smiles. She bends over Jesus Who is looking at her with His eyes wide open, she kisses Him on those two strips of blue and says: «Do you know what I have for you? Guess.»

Jesus thinks, but He cannot guess. I doubt whether He does it deliberately, to give Joseph the joy of giving Him a surprise. Joseph in fact comes in, carrying a large round basket. He lays it down on the floor in front of Jesus, unties the rope which is holding the lid on, he lifts it… and a little white sheep, a real flock of foam, appears sleeping in the very clean hay.

Jesus utters an «Oh!» of surprise and happiness and He is about to rush towards the little animal, but then He turns round and runs to Joseph, who is still bent down as before, He embraces him, and kisses him, thanking him.

The two little cousins look with admiration at the little creature, which is now awake and is lifting its little rosy head bleating, looking for its mother. They take it out of the basket, they offer it a handful of clover. It browses while looking around with its mild eyes.

Jesus continues saying, «For me! For me! Thank you, father!»

«Do you like it so much!»

«Oh! Very much! White, clean… a little lamb… Oh!» and He throws His little arms round the sheep’s neck, He lays His blond head on its little head and remains thus, happy.

«I brought two, also for you,» says Alphaeus to his sons. «But they are dark. You are not quite so tidy as Jesus and your sheep would always be untidy, if they were white. They will be your herd, you will keep them together and so you will no longer be loitering in the streets, you two little rascals, throwing stones at each other.»

The children run to the cart and look at the other two little animals, which are more black than white.

Jesus has stayed behind with His sheep. He takes it into the garden, gives it water to drink and the little pet follows Him as if it had known Him forever. Jesus beckons it. He calls it «Snow» and the little lamb replies bleating happily.

The guests are sitting at the table and Mary offers them bread, olives and cheese. She also puts a jug on the table with cider or water sweetened with honey, I do not know exactly which, I see that it is a very pale colour.

They speak while the children are playing with the three little animals that Jesus wanted to gather together so that He can give water and a name also to the others. «Yours, Judas, will be called ‘Star’ because it has that mark on its forehead. And the name of yours will be ‘Flame’ because it has the blazing colours of certain withering heathers.»

«Agreed.»

The elder people are talking and Alphaeus says: «I hope I have solved the matter of the boys’ quarrels. I got the idea from your request, Joseph. I said to myself: ‘My brother wants a little sheep for Jesus, that He may have something to play with. I will get two, also for those naughty boys, to keep them quiet a little, and avoid continuous arguments with other parents with regard to bruised heads and skinned knees. What with the school and what with the sheep, I will manage to keep them quiet’.

GRM 38.6

The Gospel as revealed to me

Quotation

38.6 There is a knock at the door. Joseph walks quickly across the orchard and the room and opens it.

«Peace to you, Alphaeus and Mary!»

«And peace and blessings to you.»

It is Joseph’s brother with his wife. A rustic cart, drawn by a strong donkey, is outside in the street.

«Did you have a good trip?»

«Very good. And the children?»

«They are in the garden with Mary.»

But the children have already come to greet their mother. Also Mary comes, holding Jesus by the hand. The two sisters-in-law kiss each other.

«Have they been good?»

«Very good, and very dear. Are the relatives all well?»

«Yes they all are. They send You their regards, and they have sent You many presents from Cana. Grapes, apples, cheese, eggs, honey. And… Joseph? I have found just what you wanted for Jesus. It is on the cart, in the round basket.» Alphaeus’ wife smiles. She bends over Jesus Who is looking at her with His eyes wide open, she kisses Him on those two strips of blue and says: «Do you know what I have for you? Guess.»

Jesus thinks, but He cannot guess. I doubt whether He does it deliberately, to give Joseph the joy of giving Him a surprise. Joseph in fact comes in, carrying a large round basket. He lays it down on the floor in front of Jesus, unties the rope which is holding the lid on, he lifts it… and a little white sheep, a real flock of foam, appears sleeping in the very clean hay.

Jesus utters an «Oh!» of surprise and happiness and He is about to rush towards the little animal, but then He turns round and runs to Joseph, who is still bent down as before, He embraces him, and kisses him, thanking him.

GRM 38.7-8

The Gospel as revealed to me

Quotation

«But this year You also will have to send Jesus to school. It is time.»

«I will never send Jesus to school,» says Mary resolutely. It is most unusual to hear Her talk in this way and above all to hear Her talk before Joseph.

«Why? The Child must learn to be ready in good time to pass His exam when He comes of age…»

«The Child will be ready. But He will not go to school. That is quite definite.»

«You will be the only woman in Israel to do that.»

«I will be the only one. But that is what I am going to do. Isn’t that right, Joseph?»

«Yes, that’s correct. There is no need for Jesus to go to school. Mary was brought up in the Temple, and She knows the Law as well as any doctor. She will be His Teacher. That’s what I want, too.»

«You are spoiling the Boy.»

«You cannot say that. He is the best boy in Nazareth. Have you ever heard Him cry, or be naughty, or be disobedient, or lack respect?»

«No. That’s true. But He will do all that if You continue to spoil Him.»

«You do not necessarily spoil your children just because you keep them at home. To keep them at home implies loving them with good common sense and wholeheartedly. And that is how we love our Jesus, and since Mary is better educated than a teacher, She will be Jesus’ Teacher.»

«And when Your Jesus is a Man, He will be like a silly little woman frightened even of flies.»

«He will not. Mary is a strong woman, and She will give Him a manly education. I am not a coward, and I can give Him man-like examples. Jesus is a creature without any physical or moral faults. He will grow, therefore, upright and strong, both in His body and in His spirit. You can be sure of that, Alphaeus. He will not be a disgrace to the family. In any case, that is what I have decided, and that is all.»

«Perhaps Mary has decided, and you…»

«And if it were so? Is it not fair that two, who love each other, should have the same thoughts and the same wishes, so that each may accept the wishes of the other as if they were his own? If Mary should wish silly things, I would say to Her: ‘No’. But She is asking for something which is full of wisdom, and I agree, and I make it my own. We love each other, we do as we did the first day, and we shall go on doing so as long as we live. Is that right, Mary?»

«Yes, Joseph. And let us hope it will never happen, but when one should die without the other, we will still go on loving each other.»

Joseph pats Mary on the head as if She were a young daughter and She looks at him with Her serene loving eyes.

38.8 Her sister-in-law interferes: «You are quite right. I wish I could teach! Our children at school learn evil and good. At home they only learn what is good. But I do not know whether… if Mary…»

«What is it you want, My dear sister-in-law? Speak freely. You know that I love you and I am happy when I can do something that pleases you.»

«I was thinking… James and Judas are only a little older than Jesus. They are already going to school… for what they have learned!… Jesus instead already knows the Law so well… I would like… eh, I mean, if I asked You to take them as well, when You teach Jesus? I think they would behave better and be better educated. After all, they are cousins, and it is only fair that they should love one another like brothers. Oh! I would be so happy!»

«If Joseph wants, and your husband agrees, I am quite willing. It is the same to speak to one as to speak to three. And it is a joy to go through the whole Bible. Let them come.»

The three children, who have come in very quietly, are listening and are awaiting the final decision.

«They will drive You to despair, Mary,» says Alphaeus.

«No! They are always good with Me. You will be good if I teach you, will you not?»

The two boys move near Mary, one on Her left side, the other on Her right, they place their arms around Her shoulders, they lean their little heads on Her shoulders, and they promise all the good in the world.

«Let them try, Alphaeus, and let Me try. I am sure you will not be dissatisfied with the test. They can come every day from the sixth hour until evening. It will be enough, believe Me. I know how to teach without tiring them. You must keep their attention and let them relax at the same time. You must understand them, love them, and be loved by them, if you wish to get good results. And you will love Me, will you not?»

Two big kisses are the answer.

«See?»

«I see. I can only say: ‘Thank You’. And what will Jesus say, when He sees His Mummy busy with others? What do you say, Jesus?»

«I say: ‘Happy are those who listen to Her and build their dwelling near Hers’. As for Wisdom, happy are those who are My Mother’s friends, and I am happy that those whom I love are Her friends.»

«But who puts such words on the lips of the Child?» Alphaeus asks, astonished.

«Nobody, brother. Nobody in this world».

The vision ends here.

GRM 39

The Gospel as revealed to me

Detail

The Virgin prepares clothes for Jesus with Mary of Alphaeus. She dyes his clothes. It seems that she obtained the color through her embroidery, and that this gift came from Rome. In any case, the Mother of Christ thanks her relative for her help, and she declares that Jesus is like a son to her.

The vision stops and resumes later. Maria describes Jesus at the age of twelve. He is with his parents and relatives, surrounded and loved. Mary asks Joseph to bless him, so that their Child will draw strength from him, and she will learn to detach herself from him a little more. Joseph assures her that their relationship will not change, and that he will not compete with her for the Son they hold so dear. Mary kisses Joseph's hand in an affectionate gesture, and the patriarch of the Holy Family blesses them both. Then they set off...

GRM 39.2-3

The Gospel as revealed to me

Quotation

39.2 I see Mary bending over a tub, or rather a terracotta container, in which She stirs something that steams in the cool clear air which fills the kitchen garden in Nazareth.

It must be the depth of winter, because, with the exception of the olive-trees, all the plants and trees are bare and look like skeletons. High above, the sky is very clear and there is a beautiful sunshine. But it does not mitigate the bitterly cold wind that shakes the bare boughs and the little green-grey branches of the olive-trees.

Our Lady is wearing a heavy dark-brown dress, which is so dark that it is almost black, and She has tied in front of it a rough piece of cloth, like an apron, to protect it. She takes out of the vessel the stick with which She was stirring its contents and I can see some beautiful ruby-red drops dripping from it. Mary looks at them, She wets Her finger with them, checks the colour against Her apron and seems satisfied.

She goes into the house and then comes out with a lot of skeins of snow-white wool. She dips them patiently and carefully into the tub, one by one.

39.3 While She is busy doing that, Her sister-in-law, Mary of Alphaeus, comes in through Joseph’s workshop. They greet each other, and start conversing.

«Is it coming all right?» asks Mary of Alphaeus.

«I hope so.»

«That Gentile lady assured me that it is exactly the colour, and that is exactly how they do it in Rome. She gave it to me only because of You, because of the embroidery work You did for her. She said that not even in Rome is there anyone who can embroider so well. You must have become blind doing it…»

Mary smiles and shakes Her head as if to say: «It was a mere trifle!»

Her sister-in-law looks at the last skeins of wool, before handing them over to Mary. «How beautifully You have spun them! They are so thin and smooth that they look like hair. You do everything so well. And You are so quick! Will these last ones be of a lighter colour?»

«Yes, they are for the tunic. The mantle is darker.»

The two women work together at the tub. They then pull out the skeins of a beautiful purple colour and they run quickly to dip them into the ice-cold water that fills the little vessel under the thin spring of water that tumbles babbling softly. They rinse them over and over again, then they lay the skeins on canes which they fasten to the branches of the trees.

«They will dry very well and rapidly in this wind,» says Her sister-in-law.

«Let us go to Joseph. There is a fire in there. You must be frozen,» says Our Blessed Lady. «It was very kind of you to help Me. I did it very quickly and without working so much. I am very grateful to you.»

«Oh! Mary! What would I not do for You! To be near You is a great joy. And then… all this work is for Jesus. And He is such a dear, Your Son!… I will feel that He is also my Son, if I help You with His feast when He comes of age.»

The two women go into the workshop, which is full of the smell of planed wood, as is usual in carpenters’ workshops.